… every woman who passes you on the street is the same as you in need and want, in mystery and desire, you will set yourself free to see love as a common resource.
… many unhealthy relationship habits are baked into our culture. We worship romantic love — … — and scoff at practicality or unconventional sexualities. Men and women are raised to objectify each other and to objectify their relationships.
Lovers also distort reality, change their priorities and daily habits to accommodate the beloved, and often do inappropriate, dangerous, or extreme things to remain in contact with or impress this special other.
Given that marrying the wrong person is about the single easiest and also costliest mistake any of us can make (…), it is extraordinary, and almost criminal, that the issue of marrying intelligently is not more systematically addressed at a national and personal level, as road safety or smoking are.